Procreation of the species might seem to be the main function of sex but it would be a shame to limit sexual activity just to this. Sex has many purposes. It can be a form of pleasure or fun, an expression of deep love or lust, great exercise, allowing couples or singles to vent energy and diminish frustration. Sex has the rare attribute of being something that one can do together, on one’s own, that is still free. Quite amazing in this day and age but don’t tell the government as they will probably start planning an orgasm tax.
But sex, or at least sexual energy is also a route to personal enlightenment and there is a whole heap of fun and pleasure to be had on this journey. I started my tantric journey about 9 years ago as a single person and I have been in a monogamous relationship for 4 years now – sharing my journey with a partner. Now I can’t tell you what tantra is, it seems to be many things to many people. It is indefinable on one level because it is a journey based almost entirely in personal experience – it combines body and mind, emotion and spirit, it is learning on a level far more profound than anything I ever got through formal education.
On my journey I have met quite a few people who tell you ‘you must go through the pain’, ‘need to swim the moat to reach the castle, or ‘have to climb the mountain to get to the top’. Ignore these people, they are simply trying to pre-empt your experience by imposing their own – in short, a power trip. Although tantra has highlighted ‘areas for adjustment’ in our relationship we have found it to be primarily an experience of pleasure, fun and joy.
So when the hot fire of your sex energy rises from your root chakra and the icy calm of the stars descends from your crown to meet in the crucible of your heart – you are as likely to laugh as to cry – maybe even both!
Sex for its own sake was great fun when I was young, but even then I yearned for something else I couldn’t see and didn’t know – a deeper connection. In middle age I am so happy to find an energy dimension to sexual activity with my partner which enhances not just my relationship but my whole being. Major religions just don’t seem to touch on this area and seem in complete denial about our physicality let alone sexuality as beings. Tantra has integrated my being in so many ways I couldn’t imagine life without it now. Although it is certainly not a religion it is a way of life that seems to open many doors, not least the one marked ‘Sex is for…’